Masni: So, how are you taking this? (news that Humaidi might have autism)
Me: I guess, this is my 'share', and I just have to live with it.
Every time life sends me some 'lemons', I have always take comfort in knowing that "on no soul does Allah place a burden greater than it can bear" (Al-Baqarah: 286). Yes, I guess instead of letting the 'lemon's' sourness get at me, I do try to make lemonade instead.
Of course, I was surprised when the doctors told me their suspicion. Yes, I was numb for a moment. But if it's fated, I'll live with it. I can take this - it might not be the easiest thing to live with - but Allah knows my limit. And He would never test me with something beyond my limit.
Besides, it's not confirmed yet. The doctors only suspected him of having ASD, not diagnosed him as having it). There is still hope yet, insya Allah.
Anyway, life is like that - all of us having our own 'shares' of trials and tribulations. Most people would like to live a 'normal' life, but 'normal' has different meaning to each of us, with different trials and tribulations.
When one remains single, people prod him or her, "when are you getting married?"
For all that we know, to that particular person, normal life is living without a spouse who keeps pestering him/her after he/she was done being pestered by others (to find the person to keep pestering him/her - for life)
When a married couple remain childless - people ask them, "when are you going to get a child?"
For all that we know, the couple may or may not remain childless out of their own choice. If they have tried but failed anyway, normal life to them would be spending more quiet time together and venture on adventures that are deemed impossible for couples with children.
'Normal' is subjective.
And Insya Allah, I - with three special children; Huzaifah with his extra right thumb, Humaidi who is suspected of having ASD and baby Haniyya with one of his testicles still undescended to the right place - am going to try my best giving all of my children a normal life as normal can be.
At least what 'normal' is meant for us, anyway.
Insya Allah.
16 comments:
Hang in there.
lina: thank you
insyaAllah - u are right-each one of us got our own dugaan-
ermayum: kan? semalam CC saya cakap, "Puan, kadang-kadang saya rasa Allah bagi dugaan lebih hanya untuk orang-orang yang terpilih sebab mereka inilah yang selalunya lebih dekat dengan Allah..."
semoga dugaan yang diterima akan bantu saya mendekatkan lagi diri dengan Allah dan menguatkan lagi tautan pengharapan saya padaNya...
Gosh! I've no idea...After reading all your recent entries on this hospital trips, how thankful I am for what I have.
You're right, we all have to face different kind of situations and trials...Allah knows our limit, hence the test. I remember having a problem I can't solve and caused me a great pain and anxiety...then, I remember the surah Baqarah. I went straight to bed and sleep over the problem...guess what? It was perfectly solved within a week!
Of course, in your case...you can't just sleep and forget...may Allah gives you the patient and strength to go through this.
it is so hard to read all this abt the boys. the boys whom i look upon as my own family.
all i can do is doa. and to tell you that should you need me, if i can be there, i will.
and your CC is right.
love you.
Anira: Amin...
Kit: Thank you dear...
And my CC is 56 - and wisdom do come with age, right?
love you back
kak azra,
i've been a silent reader all these while. i'm a special education teacher. just wanna advise u to not ever lose ur hope. lucky humaidi to have u as his mom. coz i know u will do ANYTHING to make it better for him. there are so many treatment/theraphy out there for autistic kid. the earlier they can get diagnose the better. insyaAllah...
cikgu noya: thank you.
insya Allah i'll try my best to make it better for him and never lose hope...
you are right - there are so many treatment/therapies for children with ASD available today compared to say 10-20 years back. my friend Yam has a daughter with ASD and she had invited me over to her house this weekend to hand some materials that might help me understand ASD better...
Salam.Ini Mak.Selain dari cerita dengan sahabat handai, Lebihkan cerita pada Allah. Kerana Allah yang tahu apa yang dihati dan segala-galanya..Zikir, fikir,ikhtiar.Your worry is my worry.Always update me.Will visit as soon as we get back.
Mak: Ok. Points noted. Have a good journey in Acheh and may Allah bless us all always...
Salam Azra,
Has not visiting your blog lately due to a lot of works, I was shocked to learn about your kids. The same kids that played with my kids back in Tokyo. It is hard to imagine how this happened to person I know. My pray that Humaidi's condition is not as bad as what the doctor said, and may Allah grant you and Ustaz the patience and strength in this difficult situation. Do keep us updated from time to time kay. Hang in there dear.
Mida
Rather cool blog you've got here. Thanx for it. I like such themes and everything that is connected to this matter. BTW, try to add some photos :).
mida: thank you for your do'a and words of support. will keep you updated via this blog insya Allah...
anon: I will try to add more photos from time to time insya Allah
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